A Spark is all it takes….
28 Mar 2011 1 Comment
I’ve decided this dating concept is going to be rather difficult for me, I think. I’m so used to just diving into things based off of that first initial spark and so I told myself at the beginning of this experiment that I wouldn’t base things off of any spark whatsoever. If I met a guy and he wasn’t creepy, I told myself I’d give it more than one shot. But it’s hard! I know that I really need to let things develop, not put the pressure on things to spark, just to see what things lead to. But….I get bored.
The day after my mummy date with DC I texted him and told him that I was wanting to just start as friends. At least. He responded that was fine and he understood. Since he said he understood, I decided to see him again. So yesterday we went to brunch at Collette’s, the french bistro in the Sofitel. We sat there talking and eating and it was….pleasant. He’s a nice guy, he really is. I just don’t feel a spark of anything….and even though it’s what I’m trying to avoid I find myself still searching for it. He didn’t try to be all relationship-y, so that means that he actually listened to what I said and cared about it. So that’s a good sign.
On a side note, I’ve started talking with this other guy. His pictures on his profile seemed fun and he is hot as heck and he appeared genuine in his profile. We did the game exchanges that www.chemistry.com has and emailed back and forth, and after a while he gave me his number. We text back and forth but….I don’t think I’m going to meet him. He throws in a lot of…..innuendos, if you catch my meaning. He seems especially interested in the fact that I can get cheap hotel rooms….there’s no doubt in my mind what he’s after. I don’t want to get myself into an incredibly uncomfortable situation, and since my gut instinct is telling me to avoid this guy and we haven’t even met yet, I’m probably going to listen to it.
So the search continues, as it should. I spent some time this morning going through my matches and sending out communication starters to those I was interested in. My plan is to not be toooo picky, but if something seems off in their profile, or I can just tell that we wouldn’t click, then I’ll just skip over them. Otherwise, I’m remaining open.
I think I will see DC again if he’s interested. If not, then it’s no skin off my nose. I’m doing this as a self-discovery experiment and to teach myself how to do things the right way. It might get hard and tedious at times, and I may always be searching for that spark, but at least I am seeking it out instead of it seeking me.
Until then,
B
